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Healthy families find ways to facilitate open communication. They work at active listening. They create windows of opportunity to draw thoughts, feelings, and concerns out of each other. Maybe they do this at the dinner table, at bedtime, Or at a Saturday morning breakfast together. Some families even designate one night a week Or one night a month as "Family night", so they can really talk to each other. Do your family members feel as though they can talk to you about anything--and that it will be handled with truth and grace? If you and your husband talk openly, listen lovingly, and speak graciously to each other, it's likely the rest of your family will operate this way as well. 'Healthy families' never abuse each other. Some of the most deeply wounded people walking around today aren't those who've been mugged on a subway Or cheated on by their spouse. As painful and disturbing as these experiences are, experts say nothing compares to the soul damage done to children who look to their parents for love, nurture, and affirmation--and receive physical Or sexual abuse instead. 'Healthy families' recoil at the very thought of these things, but they also know the damage that shame, control, and intimidation can create. They make a conscious decision to avoid verbal Or emotional abuse--and keep it. Before you open your mouth and spew something out, take a minute to think about what you're going to say. Does it really need to be said? If it doesn't shut your mouth. But if it does, take a moment to think about how you should address it. If you're still dealing with anger and shame from your own past, don't pass it on to your children; get help so you can deal with your feelings constructively rather than taking them out on your family. Your ability to control your emotions will benefit everyone. 'Healthy families' share a common spiritual foundation. In today's environment, our families don't need just a mild does of 'God', they need the full treatment...... Perhaps more than any other time in history, family members need a common source of truth, love, forgiveness, and grace. A 'healthy families places 'Christ' at the center of their life together. Pray together daily, let your kid see you studying 'God's' Word consistently, go to church regularly, and get involved in ministry.......perhaps one in which the whole family can participate. Model a commitment to make 'God' an active member of your family--and you'll grow stronger for it. 
Healthy families find ways to facilitate open communication. They work at active listening. They create windows of opportunity to draw thoughts, feelings, and concerns out of each other. Maybe they do this at the dinner table, at bedtime, Or at a Saturday morning breakfast together. Some families even designate one night a week Or one night a month as "Family night", so they can really talk to each other. Do your family members feel as though they can talk to you about anything--and that it will be handled with truth and grace? If you and your husband talk openly, listen lovingly, and speak graciously to each other, it's likely the rest of your family will operate this way as well. 'Healthy families' never abuse each other. Some of the most deeply wounded people walking around today aren't those who've been mugged on a subway Or cheated on by their spouse. As painful and disturbing as these experiences are, experts say nothing compares to the soul damage done to children who look to their parents for love, nurture, and affirmation--and receive physical Or sexual abuse instead. 'Healthy families' recoil at the very thought of these things, but they also know the damage that shame, control, and intimidation can create. They make a conscious decision to avoid verbal Or emotional abuse--and keep it. Before you open your mouth and spew something out, take a minute to think about what you're going to say. Does it really need to be said? If it doesn't shut your mouth. But if it does, take a moment to think about how you should address it. If you're still dealing with anger and shame from your own past, don't pass it on to your children; get help so you can deal with your feelings constructively rather than taking them out on your family. Your ability to control your emotions will benefit everyone. 'Healthy families' share a common spiritual foundation. In today's environment, our families don't need just a mild does of 'God', they need the full treatment...... Perhaps more than any other time in history, family members need a common source of truth, love, forgiveness, and grace. A 'healthy families places 'Christ' at the center of their life together. Pray together daily, let your kid see you studying 'God's' Word consistently, go to church regularly, and get involved in ministry.......perhaps one in which the whole family can participate. Model a commitment to make 'God' an active member of your family--and you'll grow stronger for it. 
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