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Do you ever with that you could freeze life? Do you ever wish that you could not just watch one moment over and over again, but re-live a moment permanently, never let it go? Do you ever wish that you didn't have to let your friends go? Driving. It always gets to me, especially when I realize it's the last time me and my friends will ever hang out all together-at least for a very long time. When the moment ends, that's it. It ends, You can pull it out of your memory storage 3 days, months, years ahead, but it won't be the same. It will only be a memory, it will only have some qualities to it, It won't contain every crisp detail; it won't contain the thoughts you had then. Every 3 minutes Or hours later, it's already fading away. The vivid detail is no longer vivid. Ah, the memory, What a cruel, strange place. Filing cabinents containing folders that have missing information. It was there once, but time eats away at the fragile wisps, That was today, I was able to have one last small moment with my friends Ah Ling, Cat, and Ray. I'll be able to see the first two again shortly; but Ray I won't have the chance to visit with for a long time yet. Ah, goodbyes, How sweet they can be; how cruel and destroying they can be. I wish I could just take that moment-- the moment of dead silence save the tune of "High School" blasting out of the stereo speakers. And, as Ah Ling put it (Or was it Ray? see how the memory fails given just 30 minutes?) how fitting since some of our best memories were made in "High School". Well, farewell to you three, We shall see each other again, I am sure of it. However, the circumstances won't be quite the same. But I'll never forget--Or, at least, I'll try never to forget. I know people say that change is good, but why is that? What's so wrong with consistancy? What's so wrong with a predicatable lifestyle? Sure, we can be free and random whenever we so choose to be, but why can't we just............ 
Wow, I haven't been on 'My Blogger' in forever. I miss this. I have a feeling nobody will read this but I'm going to update anyways. My life has been up and down lately. 'March 3rd' was the scariest day of my life by far. Totaled my car and the suburban that hit me. I'm fine and so is the other lady but it still shook me up. It will definately be something I always remember. Okay back to the beginning of work. Made a new friend. Worked out for a while, but then quickly went downhill. Well we are over that and we have moved on. I have decided to graduate early which is a great thing I have come to realize. It's hard work, but in the end it will be great. I quit raiderettes. There has been no regrets so far. I work at 'Sasa' now, What a bore. haha..... Well it pays the bills. Work is a bore, but what else is new? Dance is going great, it helps me release my emotions which is what I need right now? big time. We have been to two competitions and have done great at both. I love dance it's my life right now. D.K moved in July. One of the saddest things to happen to me in my life. I have lost a big part of me. D.K was the glue that held the four of us together. He is truly missed. Let's see what else, I have done some pretty crazy things in the past few months. I won't give specifics, but I don't regret any of it. If you know what I'm talking about don't give me a spill about how these things will affect me later in life, believe me, I know. Okay next, I have been reading so much lately. It helps me escape reality. Music does the same thing. I disagree with everything my parents say. I mean I don't tell them what I think because that would just cause more arguing with them. I definately don't want that. I really miss my car. She was great. I'm sure the next one will be good too. but some great memories were made in that car. Okay I think this is enough for now.
The Big Picture and Total Concept~~~ The Key to a long lasting and fulfilling relationship is your ability to display alpha male qualities, every point above is a reference to one. Alpha male qualities make your relationship stay healthy and in balance. Have you ever noticed how women are attracted to alpha males? The quarterback of the football team--leader of men, ambitious, protects his own, is confident, knows his own principles, in shape and healthy, high social status, etc. etc. When would the quarterback bend over backwards and get on his knees to keep a girl? Never. He has options because he has so much to fall back on, not to mention other girls are attracted to him already. How about that very popular guy you know who seems to know and get along with everyone and goes out every night? His social status is high; he believes in respect, protects his friends, leader of the pack, he's confident, more than likely well groomed and in good shape. When does he bend over backwards for a girl!? Never as well. He goes out every night, knows a lot of people, and has qualities many women find attractive. Women like to be led and be taught, they look for the leaders and teachers. They want protection and someone who stands up for the family. If you can't meet these subconscious needs, she'd prefer to go out and find another male. In essence, I find men treating their women in the relationship with too much courtesy, love, compliments, control, and a transfer of leadership because they want to do anything to keep her there. Fact is, "if you make her the prize, she has every reason to leave you". If you are the prize, she has every reason to be with you to attain it. Don't bend over backwards for a girl in your relationship, it's not worth it. You don't enjoy it and she'll end up leaving you, it's a double negative. You be yourself, keep your ambitions, you be the leader, she will follow, you will be happy for being yourself, she will be happy to be with someone interesting and capable of being her mate, it's a double positive. Women ultimately seek the alpha male because they are the best mates. If you show her that you have qualities of an alpha male, she is more inclined to be with you and you'll both be happy. Alpha males don't bend over backwards Or become someone's bitch (don't take that statement too literally). Alpha males are on top of their game; they lead people, have high social status, and watch out for number one while taking care of everyone else. When women see the alpha male, they see a prize to be had. On the other hand, when men see women as a prize, the woman has you in the palm of her hands............ you turn her off because you are nothing like an alpha male, you are nothing like what she wants because you make her the prize, don't do this. You just bent over backwards for her in hopes of keeping her and she's going to leave you because of it. Don't fall into this. The harder you try to keep her around the more inclined she is to leave. Remember, alpha males are willing to walk away because they have a lot more going for them than to try and fix a bad relationship. WWAMD? What would an alpha male do? 
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5) Moderate the situations~~~ Again, this is another leadership quality, Don't let her hold you on the phone for 3 hours talking about her girl problems. Don't let her convince you of doing something against your own beliefs. If you were in an important lecture class and she calls you, don't leave to go answer your phone. Set some ground rules for yourself. If your friend called you during your important lecture class, would you drop the lecture to answer? No. So why would you do this for your partner, knowing the conversation may have not been as important as the lecture, Or knowing that it could wait until after? There is a way to be flexible and understanding but don't fall under control. Be available to help her out, but don't be available all the time even when you shouldn't be. You have a life you're working on too!!!!! Don't forget about number one. 5) Don't forget to input into the relationship~~~ Many men might get carried away with the idea of being an alpha male (which these qualities are a part of) is far above the aspects involved in relationships. Remember, a relationship is mutual, if she is constantly seeking your "approval" Or looks up to you as a partner and you don't reward her for her behavior, she will leave because it appears you are uninterested Or unappreciative. Don't get too wrapped up in being in control. If she dresses up really nice for you, give her a compliment, if she does something nice for you, make sure you treat her for it. It becomes a process of the more she invests, the more she receives. Women like compliments and they like to be flattered, if they don't earn it don't give it to them. If you compliment Or flatter them when unnecessary, they begin to see themselves as the prize, not you. You want to be the prize so they can stay with you. Reward them for good behavior and they will want to stay with you to get your affection. {All in all, I may be adding to this list in time. The basic underlying principle is that becoming more of an alpha male results in more attractive qualities that females see in you. Everyone is capable of being an alpha male, start working at it.} .......................................to be continued
2) Be a step ahead~~~ Women love to look up to their man, not only for leadership but in attempt to be able to learn and attempt to have control over him--don't let this happen, if she controls you, she assumes leadership, when she assumes leadership, the balance is disrupted and the relationship will be unfulfilling and she will probably leave. Don't take this too literally, I'm not saying women are control freaks and are out to make you slaves, they're really just testing you and they do it subconsciously without actually thinking that they are testing you. If you can defend your stance and not become totally controlled, it shows that you have higher value because you believe in your own principles; it is seen as a quality women find in men. This step again involves the practice of executing leadership. In other words, if you are a boring guy and can't ever think of what to do, she will begin to get a control over you because it turns to be a privilege to be with her. She knows more interesting things to do and places to go, she also knows that you don't have much to teach her Or take her to, in essence you begin to follow her, and once again the leader/follower balance is disrupted. You must be more socially known and knowledgeable than she is. Have a large circle of friends and acquaintances. Know the hotspots for entertainment, fun, and interesting things to do. Have connections and get to know and do more things that promote your higher value in the relationship. If she sees that you are an interesting person and have more knowledge and good social rapport, she will want to be with you to partake in what you do. If not, what does she have being with a boring guy? She can easily walk off and get a new one. 3) Stay up to par~~~ Never get too comfortable a relationship. Look sharp (don't slack off on appearance), be social, and never ignore anything for your relationship. Don't ignore your close friends, don't cancel plans significant to you to be with her, and don't burn your bridges because you're in a relationship. You want to portray the ability that you are able to find another partner should things go bad, this makes your partner want to be with you more, because you've got something in your that facilitates getting another girl, and will be attracted to keeping you. If she knows you are capable of getting another female companion, she wants to keep you for herself because there's obviously something special about you that women want, she's going to want to hold tight on to that. In turn, she will stay up to par and attempt to impress you to keep you around. You stay attractive; She'll be attractive for you. Ever notice how if you walk into a club, bar, Or social area with some females, whether they be friends, family, Or whatever, other women instantly look at you. Why? You've got something apparently that keeps those females there. Same concept here, if you are attractive to other females as well, she will want to hold on to you. Stay sharp and attractive and in turn, your partner will want to be with you. ................to be continued
1) Be the leader, Let her follow~~~ This holds especially true in this day an age, women have rights (nowadays) and have the ability to choose who she wants to be with very easily, while men on the other hand are literally horn-dogs looking for a new companion with little to no luck (relatively speaking about men in general). The fact is, Many Men want to be with the attractive woman, thus giving the woman the ability to choose their male. Women choose carefully and have the upper hand in the choice of male because they subconsciously are looking for someone with the traits as the head of the family, they also want Someone who is healthy and able to protect her and the children. In over-generalized terms, most women can go out tonight and have sex, if they wanted to, while men on the other hand generally cannot. Think about it. If a decent to good looking girl came up to you and said she wanted to have sex with you, How many guys deny it??? A small minority maybe, but the majority will follow through Flip the Tables, if a decent/good looking guy came up to a girl and asked her to have sex, he'd receive on the face and doesn't end up getting any (unless the girl is extremely unattractive and wanted some desperately, which in itself is a minority case as well). What does this all have to do with men being leaders, you might ask? Women this day an age have the ability to choose their mate far more than men have. When you let the woman be the leader in the relationship, this empowers her to look for someone better because she's not totally satisfied in the relationship and because she has many options. She's not attracted to someone who does everything she wants, she wants someone who can lead the family and take care of everyone important to her, Not someone catering to her (as much as women say they want to be catered to). My advice to men on this point is to be the leader, set the plans, and be your own individual while being in a relationship. Keep your girl on her toes, demonstrate that you have high value by doing things that are important to you, be fun, and don't smother her. If this leader/follower balance is disrupted, the relationship is usually not successful. ..................to be continued
When we pick a mate, males tend to analyze appearance and ability to bear children (and to pass on good genetic traits), females generally analyze social status, ability to provide for the family, and if their mate is to stick around. Attractive women who say that they will only date someone who looks like 'Brad Pitt', 'Andy Lau', are only fooling themselves because women (for the most part, this is a generalization) analyze men for different subconscious qualities as listed above. It's no surprise women prefer clean and well groomed men over the guy with poor hygiene, it means he can take care of him. If a man can't take care of himself, how does he take care of the family? Women don't want 'Brad Pitt' , because he's "hot", they want him because of his healthiness, ambition, social status, and all kinds of other factors that relate back to tribal days. Fact is, 'Brad Pitt', 'Andy Lau' is a good looking guys but women look beyond that to other important qualities when it comes to choosing a mate, sure they'd prefer someone looking like 'Brad Pitt', 'Andy Lau', but most women will settle for someone else who has the traits to lead the family, regardless of appearance. Do you ever wonder how hideous guys get with some of the most attractive girls? They display all of the qualities females are attracted to, most notably their social status, usually because of being an alpha male Or leadership ability. Without getting too far tracked in how men and women subconsciously look for qualities in their significant other (and also because this is a highly debatable topic); there are ancient ways that need to be followed to a certain extent to maintain a healthy relationship (at any age). In the past, men were the leaders, head of the family, the hunters and providers, the women were essentially following listening, and looking up to the man. This still holds true today, whether women want to admit it Or not. When you get into a relationship, you aren't immediately thinking about getting married, having some babies, and her staying at home while you go to work and do the job. Relationships at first are generally casual, while one Or both of these people may not be looking to do all of the family stuff, they are both subconsciously thinking about it. In that essence, I bring the first requirement for a healthy relationship. ...............to be continued
A friend is there to remind you of the truth........away. Earlier today I was hanging out with a bunch of my friends. I was being silly/goofy (as usual) and I said "I'm a horrible person" in reference to some sarcastic joke that I made earlier. A dear friend of mine was sitting next to me. She said: no you're not. She didn't make a big deal out of it. She didn't try to "reprimand" me for my joke. She just found it necessary and right to make sure that I knew the truth. It's interesting. because even though I would have said that I didn't seriously mean that I actually thought I was a horrible person........ deep down....... there was a little part of me that did. Why else would I make a joke like that? I tend to think that most jokes that we make at our own expense (Or at the expense of others) hold some sort of truth in our lives. There's at least a small part of ourselves that really believes the sarcastic comments that we make (which is why we make them). 'Friends remind you of who you really are. Even when you forget!' 'Certain things change us-- deaths, truths, lies, people leaving, people coming, people staying but leaving your heart, memories, and the people in these memories. They change us. Good Or Bad, we attach ourselves.....'
