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Relationship Advice--5 Reasons Why Your Partner May Be Clingy.~~3
3) Your Partner May Lack Boundaries: You and your partner may have heard a lot about boundaries and how people need to be assertive instead of passive Or aggressive. However, some people may not know that people also need boundaries in regards to their physical as well as emotional space. Some people are not aware that others have different levels of personal Or emotional space. Your partner may have a lot smaller amount of personal space boundaries and/or emotional space then you, but he Or she is not aware of that. They may think that you have the same needs in this area as they do. So the solution is just to simply explain to your partner that it is nothing personal, but you just need more physical and emotional space then they do. Just the simple awareness of this may be enough for your partner to give you some space in which ever area you need it. 4) Your Partner May Be relationship Centred: Everyone has what is a called a value hierarchy. A value is anything that a person puts the majority of time, energy and focus on in their life. The more time, energy and focus they put into the value, the higher up the value hierarchy it will be. As an example a person may be work centred, which means their top value is work, Or is friend centred, which means they value friendship, Or relationship centred which means relationships and one on one relationships are their top priority. The more closely aligned a couple's hierarchy is, the more compatible the couple will be. If your partner is relationship centred and you are not, Or relationships is not near the top of your value hierarchy, then you will develop powerstruggles, as well as you will feel smothered Or that your partner is clingy because they want to be with you every hour of the day. However, for your partner, they don't feel like they are being clingy. it is just natural for them to spend that much time with you. So the best solution is for you and your partner to discuss what your top values in life are and if they don't completely align negotiate with each others so both of you will have time to have your values fulfilled. In this case, you will feel like your partner is not as clingy as before.
5) Your Partner May Be Kinesthetic Or Touchy--feely: Last but not least, relationships are all about communication. We all communicate, give love and receive love in what is called communication channels Or modes. If we do not know what our partner's communication mode is and learn how to communicate in their mode, we may not be able to effectively communicate because we are not "tuning in" to each other's frequencies. There are four main communication modes known as Visual, Auditory, Digital and Kinesthetic communication modes. In the Visual communication mode people give love and receive love through seeing and doing things together. Auditory people give and receive love through talking. Digital people give and receive love through philosophical connection and understanding. For people who are in the Kinesthetic mode, they give love and feel love by touching, in other words Kinesthetic people show their love and feel love through a lot of touching. So for someone who is not Kinesthetic, they may find that the Kinesthetic person is being clingy and are in their personal space. A Kinesthetic person doesn't know any better, to them they are saying "I love you" through their touch. If you are not Kinesthetic, but your partner is Kinesthetic, the best thing you can do is love and appreciate your partner for who they are without trying to change them. In fact learn how they liked to be touched, i.e. Find out if they like to be held, like to hold hands Or have their hair stroked so they feel loved by you, while also teaching your partner how you feel loved in your own communication mode. For example, if you are Visual, they can show love to you by doing things with Or for you, if you are Auditory have them say I love you as often as possible Or if you are Digital, get them to seek to understand and connect with you on a deep philosophical level, this way you will not feel smothered anymore. So a relationship is like a couple's dance, it takes two to tangle and since you are both in a relationship together, the secret to solving any problems in your relationship is to explore it together as a couple.
3) Your Partner May Lack Boundaries: You and your partner may have heard a lot about boundaries and how people need to be assertive instead of passive Or aggressive. However, some people may not know that people also need boundaries in regards to their physical as well as emotional space. Some people are not aware that others have different levels of personal Or emotional space. Your partner may have a lot smaller amount of personal space boundaries and/or emotional space then you, but he Or she is not aware of that. They may think that you have the same needs in this area as they do. So the solution is just to simply explain to your partner that it is nothing personal, but you just need more physical and emotional space then they do. Just the simple awareness of this may be enough for your partner to give you some space in which ever area you need it. 4) Your Partner May Be relationship Centred: Everyone has what is a called a value hierarchy. A value is anything that a person puts the majority of time, energy and focus on in their life. The more time, energy and focus they put into the value, the higher up the value hierarchy it will be. As an example a person may be work centred, which means their top value is work, Or is friend centred, which means they value friendship, Or relationship centred which means relationships and one on one relationships are their top priority. The more closely aligned a couple's hierarchy is, the more compatible the couple will be. If your partner is relationship centred and you are not, Or relationships is not near the top of your value hierarchy, then you will develop powerstruggles, as well as you will feel smothered Or that your partner is clingy because they want to be with you every hour of the day. However, for your partner, they don't feel like they are being clingy. it is just natural for them to spend that much time with you. So the best solution is for you and your partner to discuss what your top values in life are and if they don't completely align negotiate with each others so both of you will have time to have your values fulfilled. In this case, you will feel like your partner is not as clingy as before.
5) Your Partner May Be Kinesthetic Or Touchy--feely: Last but not least, relationships are all about communication. We all communicate, give love and receive love in what is called communication channels Or modes. If we do not know what our partner's communication mode is and learn how to communicate in their mode, we may not be able to effectively communicate because we are not "tuning in" to each other's frequencies. There are four main communication modes known as Visual, Auditory, Digital and Kinesthetic communication modes. In the Visual communication mode people give love and receive love through seeing and doing things together. Auditory people give and receive love through talking. Digital people give and receive love through philosophical connection and understanding. For people who are in the Kinesthetic mode, they give love and feel love by touching, in other words Kinesthetic people show their love and feel love through a lot of touching. So for someone who is not Kinesthetic, they may find that the Kinesthetic person is being clingy and are in their personal space. A Kinesthetic person doesn't know any better, to them they are saying "I love you" through their touch. If you are not Kinesthetic, but your partner is Kinesthetic, the best thing you can do is love and appreciate your partner for who they are without trying to change them. In fact learn how they liked to be touched, i.e. Find out if they like to be held, like to hold hands Or have their hair stroked so they feel loved by you, while also teaching your partner how you feel loved in your own communication mode. For example, if you are Visual, they can show love to you by doing things with Or for you, if you are Auditory have them say I love you as often as possible Or if you are Digital, get them to seek to understand and connect with you on a deep philosophical level, this way you will not feel smothered anymore. So a relationship is like a couple's dance, it takes two to tangle and since you are both in a relationship together, the secret to solving any problems in your relationship is to explore it together as a couple.
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