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"Hostility....."
'Hostility can take the form of utter lack of interest Or complete hatred. There are plenty of times when some degree of hostility is warranted. We may feel weary after our fifth unpleasant blind date in a row Or offended when someone treats us with disrespect. When a person does something heinous, such as assault an innocent stranger, it's not unreasonable to feel something more akin to loathing, That said, 'Hostility' and 'hostility' can also be unwarranted; expressing scorn just because someone is driving more slowly than you think they should can wear on you and spread negativity to others. Tickle's research has shown that compassion in the natural antidote to 'hostility'. Your test results have revealed that you tend to experience 'hostility' at a high intensity. When someone makes an inappropriate comment, for instance, you're more likely to feel loathing, where as others may gravitate toward less intense feelings, such as dislike. Your feelings of intense 'hostility' can be used as a gauge to identity behavior that is ultimately offensive Or inappropriate, and they can motivate you to take action against such behavior, when misplaced, though, feelings of scorn and disdain can alienate others and sometimes poison you. Engaging in empathetic feelings toward yourself and others is a good way of defusing 'hostility' when it seems out of proportion to the situation at hand. Develop a regular meditation practice......... Often we feel bored with situations Or hostile toward the behavior of others because of our strong judgments about them. For instance, we might think things like: This job isn't good enough for me. My partner dosen't apprecate me. My friend is making a huge mistake. While there are times when judgment is healthy? for distance, when someone is abusing us Or someone else? the problem is in seeing a definitive right Or a wrong when there are actually multiple paths of thought. One way to examine our judgments is to practice regular meditation. There are many different kinds, most of which focus on bringing your awareness to the present moment. Here's a good method to start with: 1) Find a comfortable and quiet space to sit. You'll start with a five-minutes meditation session (set a timer if it will help you let go more easily). 2) Close your eyes, and focus on your breath. Listen to it moving in and out of your body, slowly and deeply, Bring your breath all the way down into your belly, letting it fill up before slowly exhaling. 3) While you continue to inhale and exhale, place all of your focus on the sound and feeling of your breath. Other thoughts will try to horn in? the laundry, deadlines, your tense neck? but you should just let them pass. Continue to focus and refocus on your slow, deep breathing. 4) If you have a hard time focusing on your breath at first, you may choose a mantra? a word that you can repeat again and again. Some common mantras are the words "om", "peace", Or "calm" you may also want to think of the word "in", as you inhale, and "out" as you exhale, but you should choose a method that helps you find that state of calm, focused attention on your breath. 5) When judgments come to you as you are sitting there, just observe them, and then let them go. You don't need to be constrained by any one way of thinking. You don't need to obsess about the past Or worry about the future. All you need to do is focus on the present moment, yourself, and your breath.
'Hostility can take the form of utter lack of interest Or complete hatred. There are plenty of times when some degree of hostility is warranted. We may feel weary after our fifth unpleasant blind date in a row Or offended when someone treats us with disrespect. When a person does something heinous, such as assault an innocent stranger, it's not unreasonable to feel something more akin to loathing, That said, 'Hostility' and 'hostility' can also be unwarranted; expressing scorn just because someone is driving more slowly than you think they should can wear on you and spread negativity to others. Tickle's research has shown that compassion in the natural antidote to 'hostility'. Your test results have revealed that you tend to experience 'hostility' at a high intensity. When someone makes an inappropriate comment, for instance, you're more likely to feel loathing, where as others may gravitate toward less intense feelings, such as dislike. Your feelings of intense 'hostility' can be used as a gauge to identity behavior that is ultimately offensive Or inappropriate, and they can motivate you to take action against such behavior, when misplaced, though, feelings of scorn and disdain can alienate others and sometimes poison you. Engaging in empathetic feelings toward yourself and others is a good way of defusing 'hostility' when it seems out of proportion to the situation at hand. Develop a regular meditation practice......... Often we feel bored with situations Or hostile toward the behavior of others because of our strong judgments about them. For instance, we might think things like: This job isn't good enough for me. My partner dosen't apprecate me. My friend is making a huge mistake. While there are times when judgment is healthy? for distance, when someone is abusing us Or someone else? the problem is in seeing a definitive right Or a wrong when there are actually multiple paths of thought. One way to examine our judgments is to practice regular meditation. There are many different kinds, most of which focus on bringing your awareness to the present moment. Here's a good method to start with: 1) Find a comfortable and quiet space to sit. You'll start with a five-minutes meditation session (set a timer if it will help you let go more easily). 2) Close your eyes, and focus on your breath. Listen to it moving in and out of your body, slowly and deeply, Bring your breath all the way down into your belly, letting it fill up before slowly exhaling. 3) While you continue to inhale and exhale, place all of your focus on the sound and feeling of your breath. Other thoughts will try to horn in? the laundry, deadlines, your tense neck? but you should just let them pass. Continue to focus and refocus on your slow, deep breathing. 4) If you have a hard time focusing on your breath at first, you may choose a mantra? a word that you can repeat again and again. Some common mantras are the words "om", "peace", Or "calm" you may also want to think of the word "in", as you inhale, and "out" as you exhale, but you should choose a method that helps you find that state of calm, focused attention on your breath. 5) When judgments come to you as you are sitting there, just observe them, and then let them go. You don't need to be constrained by any one way of thinking. You don't need to obsess about the past Or worry about the future. All you need to do is focus on the present moment, yourself, and your breath.
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