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Friend--do you attract "unavailable" men?~~(Part 3)
Fourth-- your frustration builds up even more and either brings you to an emotionally destructive CONFRONTATION with him that FREAKS him out (like an ultimatum)..... Or all the silent tension and negative feelings between you make him act distant, disconnected and maybe he even starts losing interest in you. Remember going down this road? Not fun, huh? So what's going on here? And what can you do about it? Stick with me here, and I'll reveal some basic insights about how to get a man on the "same page" about where your relationship is headed without all that drama, tears and frustration. "CENTER" YOURSELF FIRST..... AND GET CLEAR ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT........ What you need to do FIRST, before you do anything else, is get CLEAR about what you want and expect from your 'love' life. You need to be honest with YOURSELF first, before you can be honest with anyone else in your life. STOP PRETENDING you only want a "casual" fun fling when what you REALLY want is to have a committed, serious relationship that's "going somewhere". Here's the thing........ Getting clear about what you want will help guide your mind in all kinds of POSITIVE DIRECTIONS to help you find and attract the rights situation and people in your life. But, unfortunately, being CLEAR and HONEST is not that simple for most women when "the rubber meets the road" in dating and relationships. The reality is, knowing what they want and ecpect can turn into a source of EXTREME frustration and anxiety for a lot of women. What is that? I'll explain............ Expectations can definitely set us off in good directions in our lives......... But when we don't feel like we have the CONTROL over how to get those expectations met, the "wheels" really start to come off the car, so to speak. To get the inside scoop about how the commitment process works for a man, and how to transition from "casual" to deeply committed in an easy and effortless way, without the usual uncertainty and fear that comes up when you have "The Talk" with a man.......... I strongly suggest you check out my "From Casual To Committed" program. OK, so let's get back the concept of expectations and disappointment. A woman may "feel" like the man she's been dating is "The One" and she can see things getting much more committed and serious, but she also sense she doesn't have the right tools Or skills to know how to COMMUNICATE those desires to the man in a positive way. Simply put, the woman is AFRAID that approaching the guy with a heavy "talk" will either scare him away. Or......... She herself doesn't know what "taking it to the next level" really means to HIM, Why he would want this, and how to go about talking about it in a way that builds trust and makes a man to open up and share. So she avoids telling the man what she's really thinking and feeling about their relationship. Instead, she starts to accept Or downplay the little disappointments she feels. Until one day she finally wakes up and realizes that she doesn't have the kind of relationship she THOUGHT she would have with this man, and she's just not happy with herself Or the situation. And sometimes this "awakening" doesn't even happen until after the man cheats Or leaves. Ouch. Hey, I get it. Men can act more than a little insenitive to all of this, and even act like TOTAL IDIOTS when it comes to appreciating and respecting the great relationship you already have together. ...........to be continued
Fourth-- your frustration builds up even more and either brings you to an emotionally destructive CONFRONTATION with him that FREAKS him out (like an ultimatum)..... Or all the silent tension and negative feelings between you make him act distant, disconnected and maybe he even starts losing interest in you. Remember going down this road? Not fun, huh? So what's going on here? And what can you do about it? Stick with me here, and I'll reveal some basic insights about how to get a man on the "same page" about where your relationship is headed without all that drama, tears and frustration. "CENTER" YOURSELF FIRST..... AND GET CLEAR ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT........ What you need to do FIRST, before you do anything else, is get CLEAR about what you want and expect from your 'love' life. You need to be honest with YOURSELF first, before you can be honest with anyone else in your life. STOP PRETENDING you only want a "casual" fun fling when what you REALLY want is to have a committed, serious relationship that's "going somewhere". Here's the thing........ Getting clear about what you want will help guide your mind in all kinds of POSITIVE DIRECTIONS to help you find and attract the rights situation and people in your life. But, unfortunately, being CLEAR and HONEST is not that simple for most women when "the rubber meets the road" in dating and relationships. The reality is, knowing what they want and ecpect can turn into a source of EXTREME frustration and anxiety for a lot of women. What is that? I'll explain............ Expectations can definitely set us off in good directions in our lives......... But when we don't feel like we have the CONTROL over how to get those expectations met, the "wheels" really start to come off the car, so to speak. To get the inside scoop about how the commitment process works for a man, and how to transition from "casual" to deeply committed in an easy and effortless way, without the usual uncertainty and fear that comes up when you have "The Talk" with a man.......... I strongly suggest you check out my "From Casual To Committed" program. OK, so let's get back the concept of expectations and disappointment. A woman may "feel" like the man she's been dating is "The One" and she can see things getting much more committed and serious, but she also sense she doesn't have the right tools Or skills to know how to COMMUNICATE those desires to the man in a positive way. Simply put, the woman is AFRAID that approaching the guy with a heavy "talk" will either scare him away. Or......... She herself doesn't know what "taking it to the next level" really means to HIM, Why he would want this, and how to go about talking about it in a way that builds trust and makes a man to open up and share. So she avoids telling the man what she's really thinking and feeling about their relationship. Instead, she starts to accept Or downplay the little disappointments she feels. Until one day she finally wakes up and realizes that she doesn't have the kind of relationship she THOUGHT she would have with this man, and she's just not happy with herself Or the situation. And sometimes this "awakening" doesn't even happen until after the man cheats Or leaves. Ouch. Hey, I get it. Men can act more than a little insenitive to all of this, and even act like TOTAL IDIOTS when it comes to appreciating and respecting the great relationship you already have together. ...........to be continued
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