What makes up a successful relationship?~~(P.1)

My silly question was featured. I'm surprised!!! When I asked it. I guess I had my own relationship and the relationships of my friends in mind. What also made me think was the number of memes, bulletins, and blog pasts about what women want which is supposedly to be told "I LOVE YOU" as much as possible (one said that you can never say it enough), to be held and to feel protected, to be given roses etc. There was a whole list and I think I counted, out of at least twenty do's maybe two that I thought applied to me. "Romance differs from to person". This has been the first relationship in which I have been dear about what I want and what I deserve. My self esteem isn't the best, and because of that I really had a tendency to date people who took advantage of that. I think it is incredibly easy to be manipulated Or maltreated when you feel that ~ that is all you deserve. It enables others with low self esteem as well because seeing your hurt is a constant reminder to them that you have feelings for them, that they mean something. The cycle goes on. I am dating someone who has few emotional problems. It is true that he cannot identify with me completely because of the number of emotional problems I have had & my depression, but similarly, we don't feed off one another's negative energy. It is nice to have someone who can help me balance my life. In a great way, it has helped me change in regard to what I feel I deserve. Academically, I think I am moron and deserve very little, it's true. Which is an issue that I need to resolve, but for once I don't feel this way in my relationship. I can say "This is what I want; I don't think it is unreasonable & I do think that it is necessary for a good relationship". This all seems so obvious, but when I watch other people in their relationships. It seems like I wasn't the only person who made the mistake of constantly making excuses for a partner, Or saying "Maybe I am asking for too much", You would have thought the person was asking for diamonds, for expensive dinners, for an evening spent together waxing poetic with one another, It was simple, though, much more so than all that--it was "I wish that she/he would keep the plans we made together" Or "I wish she/he didn't talk down to me". Over all though, what makes a relationship successful isn't the same for every person, and maybe the only elements that are the same are that people get what it is that they "need" Or what they've come to need from another partner (Or multiple partners, because let's be fair, monogamy isn't what everyone needs). Some people said that they needed roses. I don't need roses. Roses and diamonds are not essential to my successful relationship. Daily sex (hell, in my case, weekly sex) is not necessary for my successful relationship. ...........to be continued