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What makes up a successful relationship?
A successful relationship........ there are so many ways to answer that question, but I'll apply it to the relationship I have with my husband. We've been together for more than 13 years ( celebrated our 13-year anniversary on the 8th), and sometimes, I started dating him the July before I left for highschool (we broke up for two months...... that's why our anniversary is in September instead of July), and I was 18; he was 19. Looking back on it, I think we were so young and so immature that we went through hell because we didn't know how to handle a mature, grown-up relationship. I think we've got it now, but I have my doubts at times. To me, a successful relationship is composed of time, emotion, trust, honesty and communication. It takes a lot of time to make a relationship successful, and if you're not willing to put in the time to be open with your emotions, trust your significant other, be honest with them and most important of all, openly communicate with them. You'll either be miserable Or single in no time. I've put in a lot of my time to make sure my relationship is as stable as can be ( seeing as how we are 88 miles apart), and I probably won't ever stop putting a lot of time into it. With emotion, it takes a lot of it to make a relationship successful. Happiness, sadness, anger, frustration, joy.....I'm pretty sure I've experienced the whole spectrum throughout our relationship. However, emotions are a great way to gauge how the relationship's going, and I have always been open about my emotions and don't hide anything. When I'm not happy........ he knows some women who aren't open about their emotions, but I'm not one of them. Never really have been. Trust is a huge thing. If I don't trust you, there will always be issues. Sometimes, my trust in my husband wavers ( as I'm sure it does with a lot of women, for one reason Or another), However, I truly trust him more than he think I do. BUT, he does have to earn my trust every single day. When I only get to see him during some weekends and holidays, our relationship has to be full of trust in order to make it last. To flip it, I feel like I have to earn Dennis's trust every day, and I take a lot of steps to make sure he has that trust. With honesty......man, if you lie to me about something big, you're out. I can understand some things that are wound around Or omitted for the sake of saving arguments and such, but big things..........cheating, going somewhere you shouldn't have been, doing something that could jeopardize our relationship........ are a no for me. That's the fastest way to get cut from my team. I'm always honest, so don't lie to me, either. And finally....... communication. I think this is the one thing Dennis and I struggle with the most. It's sometimes hard for us to keep the lines of communication open, especially during test weeks Or when he has to work overtime. I believe in full and open communication......... that's the main way a relationship survives is by communicating. I hate it when all channels of communication aren't open, but it's always a work in progress to keep openly communicating. Maybe I believe in it more because I'm a PR major and have been taught that openly communicating with publics is the best way to maintain mutually beneficial relationships, but I'm all for it. I guess that's my long, winding blog about what makes a relationship successful. To close, I feel like it takes all those elements previously mentioned to maintain a successful relationship. If all of them aren't there in some from Or fashion, your relationship's pretty much doomed until it's fixed. I'd like to think that Dennis and I have a pretty successful relationship. It's always a work in progress, but we both work very hard to maintain it, and I'm happy, Very happy. So I guess it works out in the end.
A successful relationship........ there are so many ways to answer that question, but I'll apply it to the relationship I have with my husband. We've been together for more than 13 years ( celebrated our 13-year anniversary on the 8th), and sometimes, I started dating him the July before I left for highschool (we broke up for two months...... that's why our anniversary is in September instead of July), and I was 18; he was 19. Looking back on it, I think we were so young and so immature that we went through hell because we didn't know how to handle a mature, grown-up relationship. I think we've got it now, but I have my doubts at times. To me, a successful relationship is composed of time, emotion, trust, honesty and communication. It takes a lot of time to make a relationship successful, and if you're not willing to put in the time to be open with your emotions, trust your significant other, be honest with them and most important of all, openly communicate with them. You'll either be miserable Or single in no time. I've put in a lot of my time to make sure my relationship is as stable as can be ( seeing as how we are 88 miles apart), and I probably won't ever stop putting a lot of time into it. With emotion, it takes a lot of it to make a relationship successful. Happiness, sadness, anger, frustration, joy.....I'm pretty sure I've experienced the whole spectrum throughout our relationship. However, emotions are a great way to gauge how the relationship's going, and I have always been open about my emotions and don't hide anything. When I'm not happy........ he knows some women who aren't open about their emotions, but I'm not one of them. Never really have been. Trust is a huge thing. If I don't trust you, there will always be issues. Sometimes, my trust in my husband wavers ( as I'm sure it does with a lot of women, for one reason Or another), However, I truly trust him more than he think I do. BUT, he does have to earn my trust every single day. When I only get to see him during some weekends and holidays, our relationship has to be full of trust in order to make it last. To flip it, I feel like I have to earn Dennis's trust every day, and I take a lot of steps to make sure he has that trust. With honesty......man, if you lie to me about something big, you're out. I can understand some things that are wound around Or omitted for the sake of saving arguments and such, but big things..........cheating, going somewhere you shouldn't have been, doing something that could jeopardize our relationship........ are a no for me. That's the fastest way to get cut from my team. I'm always honest, so don't lie to me, either. And finally....... communication. I think this is the one thing Dennis and I struggle with the most. It's sometimes hard for us to keep the lines of communication open, especially during test weeks Or when he has to work overtime. I believe in full and open communication......... that's the main way a relationship survives is by communicating. I hate it when all channels of communication aren't open, but it's always a work in progress to keep openly communicating. Maybe I believe in it more because I'm a PR major and have been taught that openly communicating with publics is the best way to maintain mutually beneficial relationships, but I'm all for it. I guess that's my long, winding blog about what makes a relationship successful. To close, I feel like it takes all those elements previously mentioned to maintain a successful relationship. If all of them aren't there in some from Or fashion, your relationship's pretty much doomed until it's fixed. I'd like to think that Dennis and I have a pretty successful relationship. It's always a work in progress, but we both work very hard to maintain it, and I'm happy, Very happy. So I guess it works out in the end.
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