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4 Tips For Moving Forward When Your Relationship has Ended, 2
Tip 3) Take responsibility for your part-no more and no less. When a relationship ends, very often we want to assign fault and blame, either to ourselves Or to the other person, When you are in a healthy relationship with another person, both people are equally responsible for the relationship. If a relationship ends, the same thing usually applies. No matter who appears to be at fault when challenges come up, both people are responsible. You can only heal when you let go of assigning "fault" and "blame" and focus on what you want to change about yourself and what you want to create in a relationship. This can be a very difficult process if you are hanging on to the need to be right, anger, judgments and unexpressed resentments. Taking responsibility means accepting what's true about what you have Or have not contributed to the relationship that ended and considering what you intend to contribute to relationship in the future. Tip 4) Learn from and give thanks for the lessons that you learned and change your attitude. As painful as it is to hear, the truth is that everything in your life (including your relationships) is a result of the choices you have made up until now. If you don't like the circumstances in your life Or relationships, decide to make other choices. This could mean changing your attitude from blame to acceptance. It could mean opening up to bringing new people into your life. It could mean deciding to be a better person in your current relationships. It could mean being grateful for what you have. Being grateful for where you are and what you've learned will be a positive movement toward creating what you want in your life. Change your attitude and you will change your life. When a relationship ends, it's tempting to close down and vow never to get in another relationship again Or even rush into a new relationship, Instead, we invite you to take the time to learn from past relationships, be in gratitude for where you are and start moving toward the relationships and life that you really want. Susie and Otto Collins are Relationship and Life Success Coaches, married partners and authors of several books and courses on relationships including "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" and "No More Jealousy". In addition to having a great relationship, they regularly write, speak and conduct seminars on love, relationships and personal growth.
Tip 3) Take responsibility for your part-no more and no less. When a relationship ends, very often we want to assign fault and blame, either to ourselves Or to the other person, When you are in a healthy relationship with another person, both people are equally responsible for the relationship. If a relationship ends, the same thing usually applies. No matter who appears to be at fault when challenges come up, both people are responsible. You can only heal when you let go of assigning "fault" and "blame" and focus on what you want to change about yourself and what you want to create in a relationship. This can be a very difficult process if you are hanging on to the need to be right, anger, judgments and unexpressed resentments. Taking responsibility means accepting what's true about what you have Or have not contributed to the relationship that ended and considering what you intend to contribute to relationship in the future. Tip 4) Learn from and give thanks for the lessons that you learned and change your attitude. As painful as it is to hear, the truth is that everything in your life (including your relationships) is a result of the choices you have made up until now. If you don't like the circumstances in your life Or relationships, decide to make other choices. This could mean changing your attitude from blame to acceptance. It could mean opening up to bringing new people into your life. It could mean deciding to be a better person in your current relationships. It could mean being grateful for what you have. Being grateful for where you are and what you've learned will be a positive movement toward creating what you want in your life. Change your attitude and you will change your life. When a relationship ends, it's tempting to close down and vow never to get in another relationship again Or even rush into a new relationship, Instead, we invite you to take the time to learn from past relationships, be in gratitude for where you are and start moving toward the relationships and life that you really want. Susie and Otto Collins are Relationship and Life Success Coaches, married partners and authors of several books and courses on relationships including "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" and "No More Jealousy". In addition to having a great relationship, they regularly write, speak and conduct seminars on love, relationships and personal growth.
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