You think you know....but you have No idea...~L.O.V.E=Lots of Various Emotions. 3

So here are the main players in my dating game: 1) A best friend who is dating a guy who won't Say he's in a relationship with her but continues to act like it and speak about it as if he is............. but just won't make the final committing words. 2) A great friend who hasn't dated anyone in over 6 years..... and has never been in love.... but is a great guy with a good heart and soul. 3) A friend who just got out of a 4 years relationship and doesn't know how to date anymore. "Where to start". 4) A good friend who is dating a guy (one of which I don't particularly care for, but if he makes her happy, then I'm there to support her)....but she has also been seeing some other guys also........ all the while her main man has No idea that these other guys even exist. So, when it comes to Player #1, it's more complicated than how I phrased it, but bare with me. I always look out for my best friends best interests...... but I also will Not lie to them. I am a brutally honest person up front and eventually people thank me for that. So, here are my thoughts: He (the bf) needs to make a decision. And I'm not saying he needs to make a decision tomorrow...... Or next week..... No....today. Why wait? He acts as if he's dating my friend. yet doesn't want to tell people he Is dating her. Now, I've never understood guys (though, I've never understood girls either.....IoL)....but this to me, sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He wants all the aspects OF a relationship...... just not THE relationship. Which is bullshit. You can't have all the benefits but not the commitment. (You can, but that's meant for Jerry Springer.... not real life.) It's hard, because once you are pursued by someone, you get the hint that they want to date you..... they want you to be theirs and them to be yours. The thing with this couple too.... is that they fight.....A LOT. They get emotional and deep, and the tears always appear. 'Truthfully', that's is Not healthy. Sure, you will have arguments in relationships.... that's a given... because whenever you bring two people together to live in one world..... you will always have stuff you will not agree on......Or things that you just look upon differently. So, yes, fighting is ok.... but in the right amounts. Also, fights should be about things of importance..... not petty little things that you won't even remember beginning the fight about. .....to be continued