What is a Grown up Relationship? Making Sense of Normal Relationship Development.~2

The disillusionment of this stage can be very painful. It can be experienced as scary Or as a betrayal Or as a fall from grace. Often anger, bitterness, and resentment rule during this time. Couples can get stuck in this place Or the relationship may not survive it at all. However, if you think of this stage as the adolescence for the relationship it can put the painful dynamics into perspective. Adolescence is a time to become a separate and independent individual. For a relationship to be strong, healthy, and functional it needs to be supportive of two separate, individuated people. When we give up significant parts of ourselves to the relationship, generally we suffer and as a result the relationship suffers, Thus, although becoming unmerged can feel excruciating at times, it is an important step in the evolution of the relationship. Adulthood The Fulfilling Stage The third stage Or adulthood in a relationship provides a structure that supports and nourishes two differentiated people. This requires that we be committed to our own as well as our partners wholeness as individuals and that we be committed equally to the relationship. This stage can feel challenging around finding balance among the three entities two individuals and the relationship. It also requires a maturity around being able to own and manage our own emotional insecurities and reactivity. However, this phase is the most rewarding and is the time when we can be authentically connected while living with integrity to our true selves, For more tools and articles on healthy relationships and managing emotional struggles. ...............Have a good day, and enjoy agrtime if you have the chance. "Look Luck!!!!"