How to Not Be an Obsessive Girlfriend?

One of the most amazing traits in women is our ability to submerge ourselves into the man of our desire. Women become attached emotionally, some very quickly, and assume that the man shares these same feelings and desires. However, this can be a sure fire way to push the "man of your dreams" out of your life. Steps~~~"edit"~~~ 1) Give him space~If he wants to hang out with friends, encourage it. Let him know that you want him to have a good time and to spend as much time with them as he'd like. (Then follow step 4.) If you have to take it. There are times when you would really rather spend that time with your man than have him out with his friends, however forcing him to spend time with you results in his pulling further away. If you're able to encourage and support his time away it will reinforce his belief that you want what is best for him, and in the long run it will strengthen your relationship. 2) Take time for yourself~~~Visit friends, family, take a class, anything you find interesting Or would like to learn. Do this even if you have a tear yourself away from your man. He should be supportive of you, and encourage your interests, too. Focusing only on the one you love isn't living; It's also about personal growth and experiencing new things. Taking time for yourself isn't selfish. If you aren't the best person you can be, then you can't expect to be the person you need to be for your significant other. 3) Keep your hobbies and friends: All of us tend to become obsessive at the beginning of a relationship. The key to a healthy relationship is balance. Couples need time apart to reestablish their individual identities. Remind yourself of who you are by reconnecting with friends/relatives, Or picking up those old hobbies you've been setting aside. Suggest that he do the same. This is a simple way to show him that you are confident and interesting (even if you don't feel very confident Or interesting). Suggest to him that he go out with his friends while you visit with yours. Or even suggest he work on his hobby Or interest while you take time for yours. 4) Set up days Or times to reconnect after Spending time apart: This is simple and very effective. After asking for time apart, set up a time and day to reconnect. For instance, if one of you wants to hang out with friends for the day, suggest that you could meet him later for dinner. Or suggest a time the following day, and an activity, in which the both of you could get together. This gives both people in the relationship permission to enjoy their time apart, while also giving each of you a grounding point, Or rather a reassurance in knowing you will see the other person and they wish to see you. 5) Reaffirm who you are and why you are special~~ Do those things that you do best. If you're not sure. Try everything. If you're feeling less than confident, Or insecure in your relationship, sometimes it helps to go back to something that created a sense of accomplishment. Don't look for confidence from your partner, find it within yourself. To do this, seek out those things at which you can succeed. 6) Suggest he take time for his hobbies and interests~~ The 'Key' is to allow him to choose by assuring him you want to spend time with him, but letting him know you understand the importance of his hobbies and interests, too. Let him know that you can and will find activities to occupy yourself while he enjoys his time. This frees him from feeling guilty for taking that time for himself. You create a bonding situation by suggesting that the both of you go to stores that are of interest to him. For example, if he enjoys video games, suggest a trip to the video game store. Help him look for games he wants, Or maybe is interested in. Then give him space to use those games. 7) Know when to back off~~ Learn his body language. Ask questions. Listen to what he is saying. Men don't always come out and say how they feel, and may not tell you even if you ask. Listen to what your gut instinct is telling you. If you feel he is pulling away, don't force yourself on him more. A woman's tendency is to be clingier at this point. The problem is it drives men away. A possible solution involves letting him know you are available when he wants, while finding other things to do with your time, Or discuss the situation with him. ...to be continued