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Think He or She is Cheating?~~Do's and Don'ts!!!
By Kimberly Talley Cheating, affairs, infidelity.....the words alone are tough to hear, Whats so hard-hitting about this topic? No one wants to admit that their partner may be cheating. Even the idea of infidelity feels unsettling. The message we say to ourselves is, there must be something wrong with me if he/she has an affair. The truth is, theres nothing wrong with you, but if it's happening, critical areas of your relationship have been neglected by both of you. You can look at cheating in two ways. Some view infidelity as a devastating end to a relationship. From a fearful distance, they say they'd never tolerate it, and it's the worst betrayal of all. But, avoiding affairs only works by offering love, respect, understanding, and trust to a nurturing relationship. Fear then, the opposite of these strengthening qualities, only adds a layer of negativity, leading to the result you're trying to avoid. On the other hand, you can choose to see an affair as a major red flag in the relationship. An affair in your relationship is alarm sounding off. It's ringing loud and clear that your relationship is in major trouble, and needs immediate attention. But, where does an affair leave your relationship? I'll answer this in an upcoming article. For now, here are 7 Dos & Don'ts to consider if you face this painful realization. Tip 1) Don't Ignore Your Gut. It's not very easy to cover up cheating behaviors. The signs of cheating are usually pretty consistent, which I'll also cover in a future article. Whether it's a one night stand Or lengthy affair, a cheating partner is often overly cautious. Their attempt to act normal can create great suspicion. You also know when a sequence of events doesn't quite add up. It's usually more than one questionable occurrence that's created a restless frenzy of worry for you. But, be careful and stay in control of your thinking. Don't create stories about what you think he/she is doing. It's easy to obsess about hypothetical cheating and convince yourself it's taking place, even with no evidence. ...........to be continued
By Kimberly Talley Cheating, affairs, infidelity.....the words alone are tough to hear, Whats so hard-hitting about this topic? No one wants to admit that their partner may be cheating. Even the idea of infidelity feels unsettling. The message we say to ourselves is, there must be something wrong with me if he/she has an affair. The truth is, theres nothing wrong with you, but if it's happening, critical areas of your relationship have been neglected by both of you. You can look at cheating in two ways. Some view infidelity as a devastating end to a relationship. From a fearful distance, they say they'd never tolerate it, and it's the worst betrayal of all. But, avoiding affairs only works by offering love, respect, understanding, and trust to a nurturing relationship. Fear then, the opposite of these strengthening qualities, only adds a layer of negativity, leading to the result you're trying to avoid. On the other hand, you can choose to see an affair as a major red flag in the relationship. An affair in your relationship is alarm sounding off. It's ringing loud and clear that your relationship is in major trouble, and needs immediate attention. But, where does an affair leave your relationship? I'll answer this in an upcoming article. For now, here are 7 Dos & Don'ts to consider if you face this painful realization. Tip 1) Don't Ignore Your Gut. It's not very easy to cover up cheating behaviors. The signs of cheating are usually pretty consistent, which I'll also cover in a future article. Whether it's a one night stand Or lengthy affair, a cheating partner is often overly cautious. Their attempt to act normal can create great suspicion. You also know when a sequence of events doesn't quite add up. It's usually more than one questionable occurrence that's created a restless frenzy of worry for you. But, be careful and stay in control of your thinking. Don't create stories about what you think he/she is doing. It's easy to obsess about hypothetical cheating and convince yourself it's taking place, even with no evidence. ...........to be continued
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